Have you ever in your life gazed upon someone or something and experienced a feeling so meaningful to you that the only way you could maintain your composure was to close your eyes or look away because to do otherwise would mean that you succumb to the moment and be absorbed by it and the only way to remain a part of it is to take it in slowly and surely?
Have you ever imagined what it would feel like to be able to revisit these moments, again and again and again?
Have you ever just allowed yourself to sit in these moments, to baste yourself and marinate in them, to erase all divisions between the realms of real time vs. a slowed down dreamy sequence?
If not, I suggest you go practice this right now. Well, not right this second. For now, finish reading and gazing at these images. Then, think about your life and the people in it. Then ask yourself, who am I most like “me”, around, who am I most vulnerable around? Then go find those people and practice with them. Practice day and night if you have to. Practice what you say? Well, since you are asking, practice seeing them, really seeing them. Practice listening to them and hearing them. Practice just being you with them, the real you. It is in these moments, around those who we are most vulnerable that we discover the depths of who we are when we are at our best and sometimes our worst. When I can be comfortable sitting in silence amongst you or when coaxed to release the tightly gripped fingers of fear and vulnerability is when I know that the heart of who I am is protected and valued and safe. People that make us feel this way also make us close our eyes tightly as we feel our hearts beat faster and wish that the moment never ends.
I often have conversations with people in love planning weddings. I spend most of my days with people who are experiencing a heightened sense of euphoria due to LOVE CHEMICALS!!!
phenylethylamine or PEA – “This is an amine that naturally occurs in the brain and also in some foods, such as chocolate. It is a stimulant, much like an amphetamine, that causes the release of norepinephrine and dopamine. This chemical is found when you are falling in love. It’s responsible for the head-over-heels, elated part of love.”
I also support Immersion Learning Techniques! So go immerse yourselves. I am constantly surrounded by love, engage with people using many different mediums in the name of love, work with clients who are in love, surround myself with like minded friends who share the same views on love and am the recipient of boat loads of love. The science of Love and Acceptance is something that I have studied since I was the tender age of 5 and probably will continue to study until my eyes can no longer gaze for fear of being consumed.
When you have Love from your partner, your family, your children, your friends, yourself, strangers… You have most of what you need. Is love all you need? No, it’s not all but it’s a damn good start!
I don’t often get to arrive on a wedding day SOLO. That’s right, no one else to manage, no assistants, no film crew, no lighting or audio techs. Just me, my 2 cameras, a slew of lenses and lighting equipment that fits into a bag the size of a large purse. Simple, free, unbridled. For me, these are the times that I immerse myself and thankfully so because on this particular wedding day, I had to close my eyes a few times. Watching a father and son connecting as they dress each other, a bride and her daughter having a moment while her mother and the mother of the groom beam, They just freaking beam at each other – full of love, pride, excitement. Connections- zing, connections, more moments, a collection of them. Plus, just for fun, a wintery stormy mix of icy rain, pouring on my head, drenching our seemingly perfect plans for the day.
No first look, no daylight to shoot in, just rain, cold, dark, dank rain. No matter… You see, when you start with a great foundation and people who really, really, really want you there, it makes no difference if there is light, dark, church rules, rain and the like, it just doesn’t matter because you are left with story and story always wins.
I hope you see their story in these single frames. I hope you feel what I felt making these images. Don’t forget to pop on over to our FB page and “like” it to stay connected and by all means Pin the ones that inspire you. Celebrate Love – it’s okay if that sounds corny – just do it, do it for no apparent reason – our lives depend on it!
Congrats to you both Nicole + Michael! Thank you so very much for being my muses! xoxoxoxo