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{Positivity} is an approach not a guarantee…

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There are a few things in my life that I believe based on my experiences to be truths.  I don’t so much believe in good luck or good fortune.  I do believe that success requires a ton of work, hope and support and that good luck and good fortune are typically beautiful byproducts of these efforts – unfortunately combined with fate and circumstance.

I also believe that positivity, prayers and hope are an approach and not a guarantee of any outcome.  It is in the ways that we react and in the ways that we choose to deal with life and whatever it is that we as human beings choose to occupy our thoughts, actions and habits that can and sometimes do change the course of our lives.  Sometimes, bad things happen to good people.  Sometimes good things happen to bad people.  It’s not our choice of when and how these things occur.  We can however make conscious decisions and train ourselves to react in ways that attract support and positivity.

I recently attended a memorial service for my mother in law.  Everyone there had the very same memories of how we perceived Brenda Guessford.  As a human being,  she was kind to all walks of life, thoughtful, positive, funny, funny, funny – ok not really that funny but she had a way of making you laugh,  a way of making you feel really special, beautiful and important and talented and hopeful.  She made anyone who was in her presence feel accepted and good and positive and loved.   I sat there wondering why the plan was to take her, now.   Surely many more people could benefit from the love this woman had to share but that apparently was not to be…

Unfortunately part of being human is dealing with our mortality.  It’s not a happy subject because who really wants to dwell on the subject of when our expiration date is set for?  Regardless, it is something that is part of the circle of life as we know it.  Knowing that there is in fact an end to the story doesn’t mean that you need to fast forward or dwell on that aspect of living.  Seriously, is that any way to live?  Is not life to be enjoyed, experienced, savored, learned from?  The good the bad, the ugly, these things mold us into who we are today and you never know how you can and do touch others lives or how they can and have impacted your own life in immeasurable ways.  People come into and out of our lives for reasons that may never be clear.  Embrace them now.  While they are here. Don’t just be a taker – give some back.

Which brings me to Team TJ.  On March 29, 2007  I had no idea that my life would be connected to a family who would for me and I for them (I would like to think anyways) create a circle of support, love, positivity and inspiration.  That fateful day I responded to a wedding inquiry from Taryn and would subsequently document her engagement, wedding, her sister’s engagement, wedding,  her parents Be{loved} session as well as several other family and extended family milestones.  I have personally donated to several of their family causes that are important to me.  I don’t usually talk about these things because I find it to be self serving but today I break my silence because it’s pretty important to me that anyone who reads this blog takes an active stance in monitoring their words and actions in real life and social media.  WE DO AFFECT THOSE WHO WE COME IN CONTACT WITH IN GOOD AND BAD WAYS.  Whether you realize it or not.

It’s important that we never stop connecting with strangers.  People come into our lives for a reason.  Don’t ever discount that.  They come into our lives and they profoundly affect us in ways that you can’t always measure, that is if you let them in.  I haven’t always been as positive, kind or hopeful of a person.  Divorce, language barriers, discrimination, stomped on dreams and the like definitely put me in a very bitter and angry place.  It took many years and many people to get me to the place I am today and I like to take fuel and re-fuel those around me with as much of the good that’s in me.  That is the kind of inspiration and behavior motivates me.  I’m not always super positive.  I’M HUMAN =) but I like to think that I tip the scales to the good more often than not.

Stemming from that fateful email in 2007 my path has crossed with this family once more.  I am in awe of their connection and approach to not just life but also on staying positive, even when the plan or outcome is unclear.  We made this {we}story about Team TJ- Patient #1.  You see, reading TJ’s blog is always a source of inspiration for me.  I think – hey if TJ is smiling while covered with shingles or whatever the day brings his way then I surely cannot complain about whatever nonsensical thing is currently irritating me.  I am proud of the work we made but I am prouder of the person I have become through the experience I have had and the people who have touched my heart in ways that I can never express.

Here is the {we}story.  Watch it.  Share it. Re-watch it whenever you need a boost of good energy.  I am sending into the universe good positive vibes to TJ and his family as we share this story and also in the support as he battles stage 4 cancer.  One thing that TJ shared with me that I will never forget is his response to my question on Positivity.  It’s like a happy circle, you never know know if the positivity brings the support or the support brings the positivity.  Nothing is guaranteed so I choose to do my part to affect those that I come in contact with in a way that is meaningful because you just don’t know what the catalyst of a change for the good can be. Thank You TJ and all the beautiful souls that have convinced me of this along the way…

So today is a positive celebration.  Results are in for TJ’s latest scans.  The prognosis is stable.  To me that’s one in the win column!  To read more about the amazing Drug Trials and TJ’s progress please visit TJ’s Blog.

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There are a few things in my life that I believe based on my experiences to be truths. I don’t so much believe in good luck or good fortune. I do believe that success requires a ton of work, hope and support and that good luck and good fortune are typically beautiful byproducts of these efforts – unfortunately combined with fate and circumstance.

I also believe that positivity, prayers and hope are an approach and not a guarantee of any outcome. It is in the ways that we react and in the ways that we choose to deal with life and whatever it is that we as human beings choose to occupy our thoughts, actions and habits that can and sometimes do change the course of our lives. Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. Sometimes good things happen to bad people. It’s not our choice of when and how these things occur. We can however make conscious decisions and train ourselves to react in ways that attract support and positivity.

I recently attended a memorial service for my mother in law. Everyone there had the very same memories of how we perceived Brenda Guessford. As a human being, she was kind to all walks of life, thoughtful, positive, funny, funny, funny – ok not really that funny but she had a way of making you laugh, a way of making you feel really special, beautiful and important and talented and hopeful. She made anyone who was in her presence feel accepted and good and positive and loved. I sat there wondering why the plan was to take her, now. Surely many more people could benefit from the love this woman had to share but that apparently was not to be…

Unfortunately part of being human is dealing with our mortality. It’s not a happy subject because who really wants to dwell on the subject of when our expiration date is set for? Regardless, it is something that is part of the circle of life as we know it. Knowing that there is in fact an end to the story doesn’t mean that you need to fast forward or dwell on that aspect of living. Seriously, is that any way to live? Is not life to be enjoyed, experienced, savored, learned from? The good the bad, the ugly, these things mold us into who we are today and you never know how you can and do touch others lives or how they can and have impacted your own life in immeasurable ways. People come into and out of our lives for reasons that may never be clear. Embrace them now. While they are here. Don’t just be a taker – give some back.

Which brings me to Team TJ. On March 29, 2007 I had no idea that my life would be connected to a family who would for me and I for them (I would like to think anyways) create a circle of support, love, positivity and inspiration. That fateful day I responded to a wedding inquiry from Taryn and would subsequently document her engagement, wedding, her sister’s engagement, wedding, her parents Be{loved} session as well as several other family and extended family milestones. I have personally donated to several of their family causes that are important to me. I don’t usually talk about these things because I find it to be self serving but today I break my silence because it’s pretty important to me that anyone who reads this blog takes an active stance in monitoring their words and actions in real life and social media. WE DO AFFECT THOSE WHO WE COME IN CONTACT WITH IN GOOD AND BAD WAYS. Whether you realize it or not.

It’s important that we never stop connecting with strangers. People come into our lives for a reason. Don’t ever discount that. They come into our lives and they profoundly affect us in ways that you can’t always measure, that is if you let them in. I haven’t always been as positive, kind or hopeful of a person. Divorce, language barriers, discrimination, stomped on dreams and the like definitely put me in a very bitter and angry place. It took many years and many people to get me to the place I am today and I like to take fuel and re-fuel those around me with as much of the good that’s in me. That is the kind of inspiration and behavior motivates me. I’m not always super positive. I’M HUMAN =) but I like to think that I tip the scales to the good more often than not.

Stemming from that fateful email in 2007 my path has crossed with this family once more. I am in awe of their connection and approach to not just life but also on staying positive, even when the plan or outcome is unclear. We made this {we}story about Team TJ- Patient #1. You see, reading TJ’s blog is always a source of inspiration for me. I think – hey if TJ is smiling while covered with shingles or whatever the day brings his way then I surely cannot complain about whatever nonsensical thing is currently irritating me. I am proud of the work we made but I am prouder of the person I have become through the experience I have had and the people who have touched my heart in ways that I can never express.

Here is the {we}story. Watch it. Share it. Re-watch it whenever you need a boost of good energy. I am sending into the universe good positive vibes to TJ and his family as we share this story and also in the support as he battles stage 4 cancer. One thing that TJ shared with me that I will never forget is his response to my question on Positivity. It’s like a happy circle, you never know know if the positivity brings the support or the support brings the positivity. Nothing is guaranteed so I choose to do my part to affect those that I come in contact with in a way that is meaningful because you just don’t know what the catalyst of a change for the good can be. Thank You TJ and all the beautiful souls that have convinced me of this along the way…

So today is a positive celebration. Results are in for TJ’s latest scans. The prognosis is stable. To me that’s one in the win column! To read more about the amazing Drug Trials and TJ’s progress please visit TJ’s Blog.

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